Forgive me ~ I need to rant.When I hear the word 'hoarding,' I initially think of those pathological characters who save everything they've ever owned, but there are more abstract versions: people who hoard affection, money and information. They piss me off. But more than that they surprise me. Have they never heard of karma?
I've noticed that people who withhold affection and concern/interest in others are easy to identify ~ and usually reap what they sow ~ but tightwads are harder to recognize because they can be so sneaky about it. For example, I once knew a guy who not only used to withhold tips, he would also throw in only a portion of what he owed to pay the tab and for a long time we couldn't figure out where the shortfall was. Then one time, on a whim (or maybe it was the beer talking), Greg and I bought a pub raffle ticket for each of the people at our table. When our cheapskate actually won he didn't offer to share any of the booty. Busted! I guess he forgot to have Basil Hallward paint his portrait because he looks like he has two decades on me when he only has two weeks. (I may wish for instant karma, but I figure protracted karma is probably more effective.) Hardest of all to identify are the information hoarders. At first you think they're just shy, have a hard time opening up and that's why they're so guarded. But you then notice that they seem to have no trouble in situations where they can have control. And then, out of the blue, you discover they've withheld information that they know would have been valuable to you, and you feel like you've had the wind knocked out of you.
In an attempt to be objective and ignore any personal disappointment I can see that it's hard being a hoarder. They view the world as a hostile, threatening place and feel they must defend their position at all costs. Hoarders have to work very hard to maintain a siege mentality and that must be exhausting. I wonder if they've ever noticed that successful people like artist Tiffini Elektra X (to bring the art element into this) love to share. She gives away all her secrets with no thought of return and invites you to 'steal her work', knowing full well that nobody can be her as well as she can. And let's face it, artists who plaster copyright warnings all over their advertising take themselves way too seriously and may even be somewhat deluded. Her existence alone makes Tiffini a kind of instant karma for hoarders.
There. I feel much better now.